Wedding Cake and the First Anniversary: The Great Confection Debate

Young lively couple eating cake in their bed

“I don’t understand.” My sweet husband of almost a year looked confused.

“What don’t you understand?” I asked.

“We have to eat our wedding cake on our anniversary? You’re going to buy a new wedding cake?”

I narrowed my eyes. “No. Honey, we are going to eat the cake from our wedding.”

Now he just looked horrified.

“I saved the top of the wedding cake.” I added.

“Gross, you still have that?”

“Yes. Well, it wasn’t in the backseat of my car. It’s been wrapped in mom’s freezer. It’s a tradition. You save and eat the top of the wedding cake on your first anniversary.”

“Why?” He folded his arms across his chest as he quizzed me.

In all honesty, I had no idea. So I shot back with, “just do it.”

Which didn’t work, and that’s mainly because Jedi mind tricks aren’t real.

“I’m not eating old cake.” His decision was made.

And in one swoop, we started a brand new wedding tradition of our own. One where the stubborn bride consumes half a top tier of a year old wedding cake in defiance as her equally stubborn husband abstains nearby.

Let’s face it. Not all traditions were meant for all people.

Preserving the top of the wedding cake has fans and it definitely has opponents.

So which do you choose?

I say you learn from my rookie mistake and prepare your husband in advance for the idea that he will be consuming the very same cake enjoyed on the day of his vows in just 365 short days.

Then stand back and assess his reaction.

Portrait of happy couple lying in the bed. Girl feeding her boyf

If he says, “Sounds great, honey,” then you are golden. Make sure the top of your cake is carefully removed and wrapped many times over in plenty of plastic wrap. You can also place it in the freezer for a bit before wrapping to avoid the frosting adhering to the plastic wrap.

Avoid aluminum foil as it can cause freezer burn. Place it in an airtight plastic bag and place your anniversary cake in a deep freezer with a heartfelt, “See you in a year,” and head off to your honeymoon.


If he looks at you like you’ve lost your mind, don’t sweat it. Traditions are about meaningful moments in your life. And, trust me, holding your hubby’s head down in the year old wedding cake that he doesn’t want just to make a point, doesn’t make for anyone’s happy memories. What I mean is I’ve heard it doesn’t.

So what’s a girl to do?

Come up with an alternative that everyone can get behind.

A lot of couples now choose to have a copycat cake made for their first anniversary. It looks just like the one from a year ago, plus it’s fresh. You may even want to discuss the idea with your cake baker now so they can easily retrieve your cake design in a year.

Everyone eats the cake. Memories are made. No one is forced to make confectionery decisions out of guilt or fear.

It’s nothing but first anniversary win.

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  • I actually had no idea this was done! I’m thinking my husband kept me intentionally in the dark on this one, me being from “the old country” and all..

  • Keshawn Hughes

    I love this article! My husband and I just celebrated our 1st wedding anniversary and couldn’t wait to eat the cake we saved from our wedding! We captured the moment on Instagram, check it out here:

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